B E C O M I N G

In which the author selfishly explores personal concepts and ideas that likely hold very little meaning to the World At Large.

Monday, October 25, 2004

The Mercy Seat

Sitting across from the blue-eyed boy, I saw his sadness, and it covered us both like a damp blanket; we huddled beneath it, together. Many had gone before me, had sat in this chair while they spoke reluctant, cruel words that caused the lines now prematurely creasing his forehead. They would disappear in an hour or so – he was too young to keep them for long. He is an old soul, though, and I am certain the scars remain.

When I took that seat, directly opposite his, I had every intention of following through with my orders. I meant to say the words that would cut him to the quick, the words of unlove that he never deserved. I tried to be obedient, but when I saw tears sparking his eyes, tears that did not fall – oh, he was too strong for that, my boy; bright, hot tears – I could not do it. How could I sit across from my best of friends and tell him what I hated about him in front of all of these people – my uncomfortable, confused comrades? And would I be the next one to sit in his place?

But there was just nothing to hate about him. I tried to think of something, anything that would fulfill the requirements of the ‘lesson’ without devastating him further. It was some kind of experiment. We were meant to learn something from this, though what was never explained, or perhaps I have forgotten. Was it punishment? Had he been caught listening to rock’n’roll again? Had he flashed a defiant eye to our master, a man who bragged about being born on Hitler’s birthday? Why was he sitting in that chair, across from me, eyes penitent without understanding? The always-ready smile that glowed from his deep charm was crimped into an unsteady line, and it cut me.

Then I saw him through God’s eyes, or through the eyes of a god I hoped existed somewhere. Not the one we had been taught. No, that one was a punisher, a slayer of Philistine babies, a fiery sword to smite down wicked, disobedient children like us. I looked at him and saw a beautiful, kind boy with a heart full of music, and I loved him, the totality of him. I wanted to comfort him, but I was not allowed.

So I took his hand, and I put everything good and tender into my eyes that I could find, and I said “Remember when I was six years old, and you were nine, and you borrowed a dollar from me?”

He shook his head, confused.

“You didn’t pay me back. But you don’t have to.”

I saw his heart smile, and I learned that day, in that moment, that mercy given is mercy received.

Monday, October 18, 2004

All Shook Up (uh-uh-huh, yeah, hey hey)

I heard something interesting today. A story is circulating through the grapevi – I mean, prayer chain – that a guy with a hatchet broke down The Servant’s door last night and threatened his life. What really got me laughing though, was that the Servant was able to talk down the troubled, hatchet-wielding Dear One and diffuse the situation, after which he promptly called his associate stooge, Tyler, to take care of it.

This inspires a few thoughts. Firstly, there is a very small, exceedingly sinful part of me that derives great glee from the idea of someone taking a hatchet to the Door Built By Faith. That part of me, that angry, disenfranchised part of me, wishes it could have been the one to think of it first.

Secondly, how Arfod is that? Someone breaks down your door with a hatchet in the middle of the night, threatens your life, and after talking down the perp, you immediately call – not the cops, oh no – you call the associate pastor. Why was I ever surprised that Michael Pierce’s punishment was to be relocated to Florida and set up with a new house, a new job, and a new church?

Anyway, I don’t know if this is true or not as I heard it 59th hand, but I called my sources in Parker and am having the rumor verified. In fact, my source is calling the stooge’s mother as I write this to get the juicy details. After all, how can we know how best to pray if we don’t have all the dirt?

In other news, I landed a job as the music director of a local Methodist church and did my first service yesterday.

Yes, I’m serious.

Ok, so my source just called me back and here’s what happened:

Years ago there was this kid named Jeremy who used to come to church. Jeremy was an Elvis impersonator. He was being “discipled” by Tyler, the aforementioned associate stooge, and had in fact been on the phone with him earlier that evening. At 2:30am, Tyler gets a call from The Servant and hears Jeremy’s voice in the background saying something about how he’d better not be calling the police or he’d kill him, etc. Tyler calls the police, then in grand hero fashion, rushes over to The Home Built By Faith, vaults over the shards of broken glass and wood littering the porch, bolts up the stairs to the Bedroom Built By Faith, and promptly falls under the sway of the hatchet-wielding King.

When the cop arrives (this is a very, very small town – its policeman is very short, very overweight, and writes a helluva traffic ticket), he charges upstairs, breaks down the bedroom door, and finds The Servant and The Stooge quivering at axe-point, enthralled by this crazed, sideburn-sporting, grits-eating mama’s boy who is about to send them to the great Heartbreak Hotel in the sky. The cop unloads an entire can of pepper spray in this enclosed space, and you can imagine the mayhem that ensues. Everyone – Servant, Stooge, Elvis and Cop – evacuate to the hallway. Eventually, the pepper spray saves the day as Elvis falls under its sway while Servant and Stooge pray and Cop makes a mental note to, next time, use that shiny metal thing strapped to his hip that is typically reserved for just such a circumstance.

It’s lucky that they got Elvis talking, because his plan was to murder the Servant, and then to go to Tyler’s house and murder him, and probably his wife too. With a hatchet.

I guess he didn’t like the cornbread either.

Friday, October 15, 2004

McAdams Family History

I know at least one person out there will enjoy reading this.

Tuesday, October 12, 2004

The Voice

A familiar, disembodied voice begins to speak through the air from the cassette player in the corner of the room, commanding the attention of the future bride, her mother, father, sisters and brother. Beside her, the groom-to-be perches on the arm of the loveseat, one hand resting on the shoulder of the object of his new amour. His parents, brother and two of his sisters take up the rest of the space; the younger ones are sprawled comfortably on the carpet, expressions ranging from rapt to impish, and their elders sport masked smiles punctuated with bright eyes.

She is seventeen, this freshly affianced girl, and just nine days ago had begun falling hard and fast for this man whom she had known and admired (mostly from afar) since the age of twelve. Strange, he had never paid more than friendly attention to her before, never shown any interest beyond the platonic - until very, very recently.

Just two weeks ago she was preparing for her first university finals – French, Geology, History, Anthropology, Classical Studies – and now, she sits on the worn, blue loveseat and thinks that it matches her sister’s worn, blue diamond that now sparkles on her finger. Another hand-me-down, bought at the decline of a marriage that was doomed from the beginning, and now passed on to another hopeful young bride.

Nine days ago she arrived in this new city, propelled mysteriously by parents who counseled her to ignore the fact that finals were just a week away, to drop everything – friends, responsibilities, school – and take a trip to the big city to spend some open-ended time with the Hoaglands. In fact, she should go ahead and withdraw from her classes and just start over next semester, if she still wanted to.

Hmm.

She’s a dutiful daughter, taught not to think, so she went anyway and ignored any strong reservations about the wisdom of dropping school and just driving off to the big city for no other reason than…what? Why? Oh well. She was seventeen, and there in her hot little hands was an unexpected and parentally approved – nay, dictated – adventure. She had the rest of her life to get that degree.

There was a lot to think about on the drive north; two and a half hours of it spent alone, the last leg of the journey spent with the groom-to-be…wait a minute, how did he get there? Oh yes, he had called the day before to tell her that he would be meeting her halfway so she would not have to drive all that long way alone. She was miffed to be thought incapable of driving five hours by herself, but acquiesced under his insistence. Hold it…why was he insisting? Did he have a “thing” for her? Oh surely not. No, he’s just being nice, because he is always, first and foremost, nice. Always. Just…frustratingly nice.

He drove, they chatted and listened to music, and it was less awkward than one might think. In fact, it was a good time, and nothing really out of the ordinary, unless you consider that it was a little out of character for him to pay this much attention to her. And she was probably just imagining things when she thought he was looking at her a little more often, a little more intensely than necessary.

That night, there was family time, and a rousing game of Dictionary, and much laughter and Hoagland fun. But something was missing – aha! What we need are some Nilla wafers and eggnog, someone said, and our young bride-to-be, ever magnanimous, volunteered to go to the store. And who volunteered to act as her bodyguard on this dark, cold trek into the big city? That guy who had become increasingly attentive…oh but no. No, he would never be interested in her. But he is so courteous and kind, always chivalrous, so of course that’s why.

They laughed their way through the grocery store aisles, taking far too much time to pick out cookies and egg nog; took a detour through the park to enjoy the snowfall; parked and listened to Ravel on the classical station and talked for two hours while eating cookies and swigging eggnog from the same container. The rest would have to wait for theirs.

So began a glorious, romantic courtship, enhanced by the colorful lights of Christmas in the city, the big fat flakes of snow that padded the many walks, the hot chocolate in thermoses, the evenings spent in coffee houses making up stories about the other patrons. Scarlet poinsettias mysteriously appeared in her room; calligraphed poetry and cryptic French messages were passed under her door for daytime reading while he was at school; nights had never seemed so brief or so brilliant.

She sparkled.

Then that kiss; fumbling sweetness, first admission, the beginning of something grand. They spoke poetry to each other, and she thought nothing of the future because the present was too luscious. It was so much better than studying for finals.

And now, he sits near with a possessive hand cupped around her shoulder, face flushed. He is near to bursting with knowledge, complicit with the older, the wiser, those who should have known. Why are they playing a tape? Is this some special song?

The Voice fills the room, papal dignity and grandfatherly excitement spilling forth in deep, sonorous waves from the cassette player, pasting confusion on her face. What does He have to do with this? Oh, no.

No!

Oh yes. For the Lord has revealed to His Servant that these two are each others’ companions, and He has willed that these two dear ones should marry and move to Parker to be near His Servant and aid in His work. Further, the Lord has revealed that these two shall marry at a time two months hence. On a Thursday.

She thinks she may throw up. She thinks this is all a joke for a moment, but there is That Voice, filling every corner of the crowded room, and those faces, bright and smiling and joyous and so happy that The Servant has not only put his stamp of approval upon this union, but that He orchestrated the whole thing. She looks up at the man who perches beside her, and sees the knowledge in his eyes, reads the proud, triumphant expression in his face. She looks around the room, gaze bouncing from smug grin to knowing smile, from envious young faces to relieved older ones, and then her heart, so recently awakened, breaks.

Monday, October 11, 2004

Octoberfest

I sat there, in my giant purple papasan chair, soaking in the sheer joy from my new surroundings. Yes folks, after these many, many years (10), Lydia O. has a craft room again. And such a craft room! I spent the entire weekend in an activity described by my mother as “puttering” in my new space: organizing, decorating, arting and ruminating. I gave myself permission to “waste” as much time as I wanted for two days, and I am a better person for it.

October is Be Kind to Lydia month (didn’t you get the memo?). Since Lydia has quit smoking, she needs to find her comfort elsewhere and establish new, healthy habits. It is hoped that by the end of this month of revitalization and renewal that Lydia will conquer the need to refer to herself in the third person.

Wednesday, October 06, 2004

Day Three: I Ate Bob

Bob is the office jerk.

He's standing right in front of my desk right now, leaning against a file cabinet, drinking coffee from a disposable Poker cup. He gets up now and then and walks back and forth in front of me, talking about shit like "back in those days we didn't have fax machines" and "those were the good ol' days when we could get away with..." and "it took me 20 years to stop craving cigarettes" and I basically just want to take my heavy duty Swingline to his eyeballs over and over until he loses all capacity to bother me.

Tuesday, October 05, 2004

Day Two: My Jaw Aches

Spiral snakes spin up and out
Ephemeral slinkies from my ears
Smoking like a golem
Iron flakes rise on thermal need
Seeing red, and pink and orange
And flames that will never light again
A little stick shaped like a chain
A thin paper skin stuffed with death
And inside
I know
All I want
Is another gray haze exhaled,
But blue it rises from
My little white lie.

Monday, October 04, 2004

Day One: Coping With the Rage

Unless one has smoked tobacco products for a substantial length of time, one cannot know the utter panic that ensues the instant the last one is snuffed out.

I am no longer a smoker. I will not be defined by smoking. I will not smell like cigarette smoke. My skin will not get dry and crackly before the age of 40. My lungs may recycle themselves. I no longer have the social standing of a rabid, slightly retarded leper. I can develop my own judgmental and self-righteous attitude about the dangers of smoking and be cool like the rest of the non-smoking world and make people who are still smoking feel like rabid, slightly retarded lepers because obviously they have not seen the neat, minimalist billboards. They must not know, or worse, care, that they are destroying their bodies and everyone else’s right to clean, fresh air. It is now my job to educate the poor trash of which I was once a part.

For some reason, when I give up smoking, I feel overwhelmed and controlled by utter, blazing rage. I want to KILL MAIM HURT. I think this says something pretty profound about me. It says that the only reason I smoke is to keep from killing the rest of you, and giving up the death sticks may be good for MY health, but it is

Definitely. Bad. For. Yours.

I don’t know how, but this is all your fault. I need a Fight Club for Girls.